Monday, January 10, 2022

5 Ways You're Making Your Life Way Harder Than It Needs To Be


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Life is challenging at the best of times. But it’s even hard when you’re actively working against yourself. 

In this post, we take a look at some of the ways you’re making your life harder than it needs to be (and what you can do about it). 

You Think Other People Have Dark Motivations

Ascribing motivations and intent to other people is a dangerous game and something that can quickly bring you down. If you don’t get a handle on it, you wind up creating all sorts of drama in your head. 

The trick here is to accept that you simply don’t know why people do the things that they do. In almost all cases, the intention is not to hurt you. Instead, it’s either forgetfulness, lack of tact or some other issue that’s affecting the other person. 

If a friend doesn’t text you back, don’t sweat it. They’re probably just busy. 

You’re Turning To Compulsive Behavior

When life gets tough, people look for solutions or ways out. That’s natural. Every human being is essentially seeking pleasantness within themselves and around them. 

However, sometimes you’ll feel a temptation to engage in compulsive behavior. You’ll do something that you know is bad for you, but go ahead with it anyway. 

Sunshine Behavioral Health talks about this in more detail. The clinic also discusses how people can get out of patterns of addiction by working through their problems. 

Doing this is key. If you don’t nip these habits in the bud, it’ll make your life harder long-term. 

You Think The World Revolves Around You

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Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that the world revolves around you. While it might seem that way from your perspective, the world is actually bigger than many people imagine. 

Ask yourself what would happen if you suddenly disappeared. If you’re honest, you’ll discover that the world would carry on just fine without you.

When you put yourself at the center of everything, you create all kinds of dramas and stress. Try to avoid doing that if you can. Instead, focus on what you can control. 

You Think Unrealistically

Not everyone is going to be a billionaire, superstar spiritually enlightened yogi with millions of adoring fans. That’s just not how the world works. However, if you believe that your life has to be that way, you’ll only find disappointment. 

The cure for this is to focus entirely and exclusively with the process. Fall in love with your life, whatever you are doing, and pay close attention to it. When you pay attention to something for long enough, you’ll eventually master it, and it’ll yield for you. 

You’re Avoiding Risks

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Lastly, if you’re in the habit of avoiding risks, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment in life. There is no way to avoid risk – it’s a fundamental part of what it means to be alive. If you don’t engage with it, you’ll struggle to ever get to where you want to go. Let go of the attachments that are holding you back and live boldly.